Conversations with Kids

Conversations with Kids

"Elijah, if I made a mistake, would you forgive me?" "Yes," he said. "If Shiloh here made a mistake, would you forgive her?" "Yes!" he said. "If Emme made a mistake, could you forgive her too?" "Yes, of course!" "Then," I said, "if you make a mistake, you must forgive yourself too."


Elijah looked at me like I just grew another head. "What?! You can't forgive yourself!" We can, but it takes practice. Let’s get to work.

Being a "Nice" Teacher

Being a "Nice" Teacher

So I get this sometimes: “You’re a good teacher, but you’re too nice to me.” I’ve learned this really means, “I’m afraid that you won’t be honest with me about my abilities. And if I’m actually no good at this, when I perform I’ll make a fool of myself. And if I make a fool of myself when I’m trying to do something really important to me in front of my peers, oh god.” Let me put your fears to rest. Nicely.